A Year in the Making

Today is the day. It is a great day of course. It is a Sunday, the start of another amazing week, the sun might not be shining now, but it is a very special day.

Ashley, Actually is officially one today

That is right, one whole year of all of you dealing with my blah blah blah and wow look at how I have grown. From hearing all about my faith, my passion for fashion, my love life and even my workout plan you have stuck by me and that deserves a big THANK YOU.

Ashley, Actually started on a whim. I was looking for a place to just kinda vent and get whatever was floating around in my head out there for those 2 followers at the time (thanks sister and WordPress). At first I wanted to keep things really personal and thought maybe what was going through my head was weird compared to everyone else, or maybe my writing isn’t good enough to be shared with the judgmental world.

I was ALL wrong.

The day I decided to take the leap and share my first post on my social media everything changed. The amount of positive feedback I received, the compliments I was given not only over text, but in the halls and in class at school were so amazing. Writing for me was/is never about the praise but this has proven there is HOPE that this world is a heck of a lot nicer than many of us believe.

Since I started this journey a lot has happened in the past year, let’s recap:

  • I graduated HIGH SCHOOL wooohooo (thats the real win)
  • I started attending Purdue
  • I became best friends/partners in crime w the girl who kept me at Purdue & made me fall in love w my major
  • I traveled to all of my favorite cities, including my most favorite one (New York)
  • I was a NationalRetailFoundation Rising Star
  • Joined my dream sorority and met the most amazing BFF’s
  • Started dating the kindest + most genuine man
  • Got an +A in my highest credit class
  • Watched my sister get married
  • Currently on my last interview for a retail management summer position at the age of 18

As you can see a whole lot of everything has been happening in my whirlwind of a life this past year. Purdue, the Retail dept., and Kappa Alpha Theta has helped me grow and mature into a person I am proud to be. I am so excited for where I will be when I write about year two of Ashley, Actually and I hope you will stick around to hear all about it.

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you

HAPPY ONE YEAR

XOXOX

-Ashley 

P.S. Head over to the “contact” page and send me any ideas you would enjoy me writing about 🙂 thanks for helping me over come writers block + making my posts more frequent you ROCK

Dear The Man I Marry

Valentine’s Day is one of my favorite days of the year. Not for the chocolate, big teddy bears or flowers (all that I happily receive from my dad these days), but for the purest of reasons, LOVE. I am in love with the love I get to see from so many people on this special day. The couples walking around holding hands, kissing each other thank you after dinner, and just the vulnerability of feeling the spark again.

For all of these reasons are the exact reason Valentine’s Day is one of the worst holidays. Yes, I could be on the bandwagon that this is just another money sucking holiday created by Hallmark. I choose to love it anyway, but I will always question why it has to be this way. Why, oh why can’t we show this love and over use ‘i love you’ on any other day?

I never want to lose the spark. I want to wake up each and every morning (sometimes afternoon let’s be honest) knowing that my husband loves me just as much today as he will when the calendar reads February 14th. Everyday is our Valentine’s Day. They say you fall out of love for the same reasons you fell in it in the first place. I am not always going to be my best self or at my prettiest. Sometime’s I am too sassy or stubborn when I don’t get my way. Sometime’s I will talk too loud or kiss to hard or dream too big, but I refuse to talk quieter or kiss less or dream smaller because I am “TOO much”.

You won’t be perfect either. You will bite your nails or do a nervous tap that is sure to get on my nerves, but love is kinda a funny thing. I believe that we don’t just feel it, but it is a choice. Loving someone is a continual choice we make because it is who we devote ourselves to day in and day out, completely + unconditionally. Please, please, please know when a little thing is just that, a little thing. Accept me for it and help me grow it into my strength as I will try to do for you. At the end of the day my weakness can either bring me up or tear me down, empowerment and courage to make that decision is what I need you for.

So to the man I marry, Valentine’s Day is not going to be marked in our calendars, but marked in our hearts everyday. I look forward to loving you, growing with you and being with you for the rest of eternity (someday, fingers crossed). Until then I pray for the right man to cross my path and trust in knowing God has a good, no, GREAT one picked out for me with a pretty little bow.

I am praying for you and I am excited to pray with you for the rest of our future.

xoxox

Ashley