A Year in the Making

Today is the day. It is a great day of course. It is a Sunday, the start of another amazing week, the sun might not be shining now, but it is a very special day.

Ashley, Actually is officially one today

That is right, one whole year of all of you dealing with my blah blah blah and wow look at how I have grown. From hearing all about my faith, my passion for fashion, my love life and even my workout plan you have stuck by me and that deserves a big THANK YOU.

Ashley, Actually started on a whim. I was looking for a place to just kinda vent and get whatever was floating around in my head out there for those 2 followers at the time (thanks sister and WordPress). At first I wanted to keep things really personal and thought maybe what was going through my head was weird compared to everyone else, or maybe my writing isn’t good enough to be shared with the judgmental world.

I was ALL wrong.

The day I decided to take the leap and share my first post on my social media everything changed. The amount of positive feedback I received, the compliments I was given not only over text, but in the halls and in class at school were so amazing. Writing for me was/is never about the praise but this has proven there is HOPE that this world is a heck of a lot nicer than many of us believe.

Since I started this journey a lot has happened in the past year, let’s recap:

  • I graduated HIGH SCHOOL wooohooo (thats the real win)
  • I started attending Purdue
  • I became best friends/partners in crime w the girl who kept me at Purdue & made me fall in love w my major
  • I traveled to all of my favorite cities, including my most favorite one (New York)
  • I was a NationalRetailFoundation Rising Star
  • Joined my dream sorority and met the most amazing BFF’s
  • Started dating the kindest + most genuine man
  • Got an +A in my highest credit class
  • Watched my sister get married
  • Currently on my last interview for a retail management summer position at the age of 18

As you can see a whole lot of everything has been happening in my whirlwind of a life this past year. Purdue, the Retail dept., and Kappa Alpha Theta has helped me grow and mature into a person I am proud to be. I am so excited for where I will be when I write about year two of Ashley, Actually and I hope you will stick around to hear all about it.

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you

HAPPY ONE YEAR

XOXOX

-Ashley 

P.S. Head over to the “contact” page and send me any ideas you would enjoy me writing about 🙂 thanks for helping me over come writers block + making my posts more frequent you ROCK

A Walk on the Brighter Side

Spring is here (finally) and with this happy, colorful season, comes new ways to brighten up your wardrobe. Accessories are the game changer. 

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From head to toe, rocking a fun pair of sunnies from H&M that can easily keep costs low and interchangeable throughout the seasons. My fav Block colored messenger that has every outfit light and classic with the easy going white + taupe. Tying my colors together with this vibrant ribbon belt was my go to choice. Navy, olive, mustard and a splash of red take this outfit go from simple to Spring in seconds.

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Laced up and ready to go, mustard is the color of the season, I promise.

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Outfit details:

Sunglasses: H&M

Messenger: Michael Kors

Belt: F.H. Wadsworth

Kingfisher Belt

Shirt: Forever21

Pants: Free People

Shoes: TJ Maxx

Denim Jacket: Thrift Store

 

xoxox

–Ashley

Finding What’s Good

Going into my 4th week of classes this semester I am starting to look at things a lot differently than I did 5 short months ago. Preparing myself for early morning classes, waking up in time to feed myself and focus on getting my work done on time has been a hard struggle to overcome.

Me time is what I have found to be good for me. Finding that time in my day to just breath, relax and not feel the weight of a  thousand item to do list sitting on my shoulders (more like on my pretty lily planner). Crazily I have discovered this awesome amenity my campus has to offer called light therapy (HAHA no this is not an ad). Now if you know me you know how RIDICULOUS I think therapy is, but this is one of another nature. I have been off and on sick since September with basically everything in the book (I wish I was kidding, I’ll make you a list). Light therapy has given me the me time I have been looking for (with lots of warmth). Every week, once or twice depending on this bipolar IN weather, I come to the wellness suite and sit my happy (cold) butt in front of a bright, cozy light. That’s right I just sit. I turn off my phone, computer and basically everything distracting from the outside world and throw my head back for 30 minutes. Lately I have been using this time to really think about my life and reflect on the goods and bads that have twisted themselves into my world. This time around I have been really distracted in my days by building my work ethic.

My work ethic does not have the best track record, especially when it comes to school. Last semester I could have tried harder, I could have gone the extra mile or heck I could have done the mandatory mile to the best of my ability, but I didn’t (what a bite in the butt). I struggled to find my balance. A balance between school and social life, something that brought me down where I should have been brought up. Don’t think I think anyone has the balancing act down (except maybe Beyonce) because what a world that would be, but I definitely have a strong sense everyone else has it down a lot better than I do. I would say “oh of course I can finish my homework in 20 minutes before class in the morning. That’s what noon classes are for, early cramming, I can totally go out tonight.” Going to college and meeting tons of new people makes it kinda hard to say no to all the amazing, endless opportunities even when I have things I know are more important that need my attention. I have a really, really bad habit of biting off more than I can chew. From extra curricular, to dinner dates, working out everyday (de-stressing, but also stressing bc I have a million  things to do) and just taking on whatever else anyone wants from me. I am a yes person and I know most people would agree that can be a very great trait, but when I have 2974049 things that need done, a yes is not always my best answer.

This semester I am setting goals and working to realign for the bettering of myself. My goals are set high, but not unattainable by any means. I pledge myself to become more of the person I preach to be, but lack to practice in my daily life. I hope to learn how to study harder (I’m a guilty crammer whoops). I strive to strengthen my trust in my sorority sisters, best friends and family. I aim to impress my professors with well thought out work that proves I am committed to my education. I believe I can continue to grow in a positive light through the love that surrounds me and my beautiful campus.

Reminding myself each and everyday can be better than the one before is a stepping stone that keeps me motivated. When things get hard and giving up on school seems like the best option I am reminded that I have been chosen for this path and I CHOOSE to be here. No one is saying this is the road I must follow, but for the sake of my future this is where I need to be. Each day I am going to begin to find what is good for me and continue to take advantage of me time. The way I can strengthen my ties with God while learning to love myself + others in a healthier way is positivity and a head held high. We are not always put in the best positions to make the best decisions, but the first place we can start is being grateful for what we have and how we can best use that to better our lives right now. I am not the best example to lead by by any means, but I refuse to follow in a path that lacks light no matter the lack of people. I will find the good and the balance I have been calling for, hoping for and needing for. Today I am thankful for what’s here and hopeful for what’s to come.

xox0x

Ashley

P.S. Fellow Boilermakers take advantage of light therapy though, you can thank me later.